The ego TOTALLY exaggerates stuff though…. Doesn’t it? Until what point WE RECOGNIZE our unwelcomed guest…. OUCH… This unwelcomed guest (the ego) had snuck in an unprotected door somewhere by our head or heart and was campin' out waiting to take up residence again… No rooms for you here toinght EGO. Get packing….The older I get the wiser I am to your ways…. You and I do not make for good room mates.
Having problems w that unwanted guest (the exaggerated ego)???? I had typed in dealing w my ego and I ran across this blog… Check out THIS CHALLENGE BELOW BY TERRI COLE.
WOW – I had to share this w you all…. BECAUSE THIS LADY NAILED IT….ENJOY.... She took the words right out of my mouth... THANK YOU TERRI. GREAT ADVICE.
Offended? Say Hello to Your Ego! Posted by Terri Cole
Her Tune Up Tip WAS called “Got Ego,” but it really could be called “How Offend-able Are You.” How often do you find yourself saying things like, “I can’t believe this person said that to me,” “That person owes me an apology,” or “I’m so upset that they thought [or said] that.” Do you often feel offended?
First, let’s break down what an offense is. It is your ego’s response to what someone else said. When you are offended, you are in an ego-driven state, which is, ultimately, disempowering and a victim mentality. Your Ego, or Self, will fall into one of these categories as a way to cope with the loss of empowerment: High Ego—power hungry; self absorbed; focus on external image; needs validation from others; blames/condemns others in order to boost self Low Ego—no power; codependency; lost/confused; plays martyr; never feels gets what deserves; over carrying and worrying; always doubting self and putting self down Interestingly enough, the high and low egos are two sides of the same coin. Both mask their genuine self by looking outside for validation, are overly concerned with the image they are portraying, tend to blame others, and are never satisfied. Can you see how, depending on your reaction, being offended can fall into either your high or low ego.
If your response is something like, “Who do they think they are? I deserve an apology,” then you tend to lean toward the High Ego reaction. If you say something like, “Why is that person picking on me? What did I ever do to them,” you lean more toward the Low Ego response. Neither is a healthy functional response so let’s get to the re-frame! The cure to being offend-able is to realize that you cannot control others, but you can control how you react and respond to what others say and do. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what someone else thinks. In YOUR life, what matters is what YOU think. I encourage you to speak your truth, and there is nothing wrong with telling the other person “I did not like that interaction” or “I feel like we can communicate in a less hostile manner, something along those lines.
THIS WEEK (seven whole days), I want you to dial into what your immediate reaction wants to be when someone offends you, whether speaking to you or about you, and see if you can take a step back and not react. What others think of you is none of YOUR business. It’s about
what you think of you. As long as you think you are worthy and amazing, you don’t need to be offended. It is a waste of your precious time and energy and gives the offender control over you. I would love to know your thoughts about this. Did it offend you ? Please share. I hope you have an amazing week and, as always, take care of you. Love Love Love Terri - See more at: http://terricole.com/offended-say-hello-to-your-ego/#sthash.9Fxo4VCk.dpuf
WOWW….THIS IS SUCH GREAT ADVICE…. I am totally challenging myself to this.
DAY 1 – Check…. Lori
PS I had to check myself several times… laugh out loud. Feels good to reserve my energy
on more important things. Making
Progress. YES!